Not So Sorry: Abusers, False Apologies, and the Limits of Forgiveness by Kaya Oa

Description: Not So Sorry by Kaya Oakes Forgiveness is held to be an unqualified moral good, but in cases of abuse and systemic wrong, the expectation to forgive harms victims, minimizes real harm, and lets perpetrators off the hook. Journalist and culture critic Kaya Oakes surveys theology, history, psychology, and pop culture to ask the question: Is it ever better not to forgive? FORMAT Hardcover CONDITION Brand New Publisher Description Its time for a nuanced discussion about forgiveness. From religious communities to therapeutic spaces, the importance of forgiving those whove wronged us is often enshrined as an unqualified good. But what about horrifying cases of abuse, predatory behavior, or systemic wrong? Too often, when predators or abusers are exposed, the chorus comes immediately: "What about forgiveness?" In these cases, forgiveness places the onus on victims, diminishes real hurt and anger, lets perpetrators off the hook, and prevents justice from being done. In Not So Sorry, journalist and culture critic Kaya Oakes tackles these questions with intelligence, nuance, and a bit of righteous anger. Ranging effortlessly from Christian theology and world history to psychology and pop culture, Oakes takes us on a whirlwind tour of the many abuses of the concept of forgiveness, including the abuse scandals of the Catholic church, the outing of high-profile abusers like Larry Nassar, and white Americas obsession with false narratives of marginalized peoples granting forgiveness to oppressors. Ultimately, Oakes dares us to ask the necessary question: Is it ever better not to forgive? Author Biography Kaya Oakes is a journalist and author of several books, including The Nones Are Alright and Radical Reinvention. She teaches writing at UC Berkeley and is a contributing writer for America magazine and speaks on topics related to religion, writing, and feminism from coast to coast and abroad. Her work has received multiple awards, with her essays and journalism appearing in The Guardian, Slate, Foreign Policy, The Washington Post, and On Being. She was born and raised in Oakland, California, where she still lives. Review "Kaya Oakes challenges those slippery, PR-constructed apologies that leave us rolling our eyes. But she does more than that. Throughout Not So Sorry, Kaya Oakes listens to the voices of victims, allows us to wrestle with our assumptions, and leads us on a path to restore justice." --Rev. Carol Howard, author of Healing Spiritual Wounds: Reconnecting with a Loving God after Experiencing a Hurtful Church, and pastor of Bedford Presbyterian Church"In Not So Sorry, Kaya Oakes presents a thoughtful meditation on one of Jesuss most challenging commandments: that we forgive those who have wronged us. With compassion, curiosity, and conviction, Oakes invites us to consider the implications of forgiveness in a fraught age." --Michael J. OLoughlin, author of Hidden Mercy: AIDS, Catholics, and the Untold Stories of Compassion in the Face of Fear"Kaya Oakes has long been one of my favorite writers on the religion beat, but I can testify that no work of hers has challenged me like Not So Sorry. When you believe, as I do, that the genius of Christianity is its offer of mercy to even the worst of sinners, it is bracing, and difficult, to be reminded of the limits of forgiveness and the perils of cheap grace. In an age when abuse has been exposed as rampant, and accountability is so rare, Oakess call to rethink forgiveness by centering survivors and reminding us of all the ways the powerful use and abuse the language of faith is essential reading." --Matthew Sitman, host of the Know Your Enemy podcast Details ISBN1506486967 Author Kaya Oakes Year 2024 ISBN-13 9781506486963 Format Hardcover Publication Date 2024-07-30 Imprint Broadleaf Books Subtitle Abusers, False Apologies, and the Limits of Forgiveness Country of Publication United States Alternative 9781506486970 Audience General US Release Date 2024-07-30 DEWEY 234.5 AU Release Date 2024-07-29 Pages 214 ISBN-10 1506486967 UK Release Date 2024-07-30 Publisher Augsburg Fortress Publishers We've got this At The Nile, if you're looking for it, we've got it. With fast shipping, low prices, friendly service and well over a million items - you're bound to find what you want, at a price you'll love! TheNile_Item_ID:161625844;

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